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New Jersey Divorce – More Wives now Cheat on Their Husbands

Divorce is never emotionally easy on anyone, but emotions can run particularly high when one of the spouses commits adultery. Traditionally, husbands have had much higher percentages of infidelity than wives, but that is now starting to change – wives are closing the gap. Women in New Jersey and elsewhere now have more financial independence, which makes them feel that the consequences of cheating, if it leads to divorce, are no longer as serious.

The National Opinion Research Center recently released a survey that shows infidelity by women increasing about 40 percent over the last 20 years. Of those surveyed, 14.7 percent of wives admitted to adultery, while husbands have been holding steady at 21 percent. This increase may be attributed to social media, which makes it easier to conduct affairs, and more women being in the workforce and having the financial means to support themselves.

One attorney has reported an increase in divorce cases within the past decade in which the wife was cheating. Some believe that this represents a cultural shift in U.S. society that now enables women to earn more money and potentially meet a better partner online. Nevertheless, husbands are still said to commit a higher percentage of adultery. The main reason that men cite for cheating is being unhappy in their marriages.

When a New Jersey couple files for divorce, it’s usually important for each spouse to try and maintain the standard of living that he or she is used to after the marriage has ended. Infidelity typically does not affect issues like alimony and property division. Therefore, each spouse may do well to seek assistance with the divorce process in order to protect his or her interests.

Source:, “U.S. wives narrow infidelity gap with 40% increase in cheating,” Frank Bass, July 10, 2013

New Jersey Police Arrest Those Delinquent on Child Support

The Somerset County Sheriff says that at least three dozen New Jersey parents were taken into custody recently. The charge is failure to make child support payments. Everyone arrested owed at least $1,000 dollars with some people owing tens of thousands of dollars in back support payments.

The Somerset County Sheriff deemed the round up a good way to remind noncustodial parents who aren’t making their payments of what the alternative could be if more payments are missed. Accordingly, the Sheriff hopes that many of the estimated 36 people will end up making payments for at least the foreseeable future. The total amount owed for all of the people arrested was nearly $400,000.

The arrests stretched across seven New Jersey counties. Six of the people that were arrested on child support delinquency also had outstanding warrants for contempt-of-court. One man even has outstanding warrants for crimes including murder.

Children who are not living with both parents rely on child support in order to help meet their basic needs. When on parents isn’t fulfilling his or her financial obligation, it can put a strain on the ability of the custodial parent to meet those needs. There are numerous ways the state can encourage non-custodial parents to meet their obligations.

Arrest is only one of those options, and is usually not the first step in the process. There are wage garnishments, seizure of income tax refunds, suspension of driver’s licenses and other “incentives” that may help get a parent that owes child support to make those payments. Not only is it in the best interest of the children for payments to be made, but it is also in the best interest of the parent who has been ordered to make the payments.

Source:, Dozens arrested for non-payment of nearly $400,000 in child support, Somerset County sheriff says,” Walter O’Brien, June 26, 2013

Try to Avoid Bringing Heartache into a New Jersey Divorce Court

The end of a marriage is always difficult. Even when New Jersey couples are able to get along, there is still often a profound sadness surrounding the fact that they are getting a divorce. Bringing that heartache into court often won’t best serve either party.

Feelings of hurt, resentment and anger are destructive forces when it comes to negotiating a divorce settlement. These emotions can lead to thoughts of vengeance and can lead to one or both parties saying and doing things they later wish they could take back. This is especially true when these things are done in front of the couple’s children.

Attempting to use a New Jersey divorce court as a vehicle for revenge may end up leaving both parties unsatisfied and miserable. Also, while the battle rages between the parties, the children are forced to watch. Regardless of what happened in the marriage, the couple will always be parents. Even if a couple is unable to agree on anything else, the issues surrounding the children may be best dealt with outside of any other matters. This may help ensure that both parents do their best to put the children ahead of themselves.

Being able to put aside emotions during a divorce can lead to an mutual cease fire for the duration of the process. If such an impasse can be reached, negotiations for a divorce settlement may go much more smoothly. If that happens, both parties may be able to walk away feeling as if the settlement they reached was both fair and equitable.

Source: Huffington Post, “Getting Divorced? 10 Mistakes to Avoid,” Karen Stewart, June 27, 2013

New Jersey Residents Follow Pricey Divorce Headlines

A divorce is often an emotional time, but it can also be an expensive time. With so many celebrity and high profile divorces in the news, people are more than likely taking notice of those articles, especially if facing a divorce themselves. New Jersey residents facing a divorce may be thinking about the best way to protect their assets.

Two of the most expensive divorces of all times have both recently been in the headlines. Rupert Murdoch’s second divorce came with a price tag of $1.7 billion. The divorce took place in 1999 and until recently was considered the most expensive divorce. It is now reported that Harold Hamm could be facing a $3 billion settlement. The biggest difference between the two men is that Murdoch had a prenuptial agreement while it is said that Hamm does not.

In a high asset divorce, a prenuptial agreement can be crucial. In Mr. Hamm’s case, it has been shown that almost all of his fortune was earned after he married his wife in 1988. This can be challenging in court as most systems will define the earnings as joint monies. However, a prenuptial agreement still could have been helpful.

Any New Jersey resident facing divorce could benefit from being as proactive as possible. When trying to protect a person’s assets, providing good documentation can prove beneficial. Although this can be a difficult and trying time, a person can take comfort in knowing there is plenty of help available if they aren’t sure of the correct avenue to take.

Source: Huffington Post, “Divorce Settlement: Will Harold Hamm’s Divorce Be The Most Expensive Ever?” June 20, 2013

Hidden Cash in High Asset Divorce Cases

When New Jersey spouses divorce, the process often brings out the worst in people. Some become incredibly petty, fighting over minor property division issues or dragging the process out for as long as possible. Others make every effort to be as bitter as possible toward their former partner, which can take an emotional toll over the long run. In many high asset divorce cases, the chosen method of attack is to attempt to hide or divert as many assets as possible, in order to lessen the amount that their soon-to be ex can receive in the divorce settlement.

Fortunately for the spouses of those who would attempt these maneuvers, an entire field of practice has developed surrounding the practice of hiding assets. It is known as forensic accounting, and works in much the same way as medical forensics. Think of it as an autopsy for one’s business or personal finances.

A forensic accountant will look at all existing documentation surrounding any given financial scenario, then delve deep to search for missing or otherwise unaccounted-for funds. In the majority of cases, those who attempt to hide cash do so in surprisingly simple ways, either by understating revenue or overstating expenses. While some business enterprises are set up in a manner that makes it easier hide assets, even a fully cash-operated company will leave a trail, as demonstrated in many high-profile cases of financial wrongdoing. Tactics such as underreporting or exaggerating business expenses can be easily discovered by a forensic accountant.

Spouses who are engaged in a high asset divorce proceeding and who suspect that their husband or wife may be hiding assets should consider adding a forensic accountant to their existing divorce team. In cases in which diverted or hidden assets are discovered, evidence can be presented to the court. The outcome can be very favorable for the New Jersey spouse who would have received an unfair settlement had the unethical accounting not been discovered.

Source: Bloomberg, “Hunting for Hidden Cash In Divorce Proceedings,” Ben Steverman, June 3, 2013

New Jersey Residents Take Notice of Extreme Child Support Case

Child support can at times be a tricky situation. While the law is typically cut-and-dried when it comes to most issues, sometimes a rare situation arises. Many New Jersey residents may have read about the story recently making headlines nationwide involving a man who has 22 kids by 14 women and is not paying child support.

The 33-year-old man is being sued by all 14 women. According to the man, he had lost count of how many children he actually has. At the moment, the state where he resides has been footing the $7,000 monthly bill for child support the man says he is unable to pay due to the fact he isn’t able to find employment because of his criminal record. He also added that he has no regrets about having so many children, but pointed out that when he was young he didn’t realize that the things he did then could later result in harm.

Although this particular case is not an everyday situation, it shows that no matter the number of children, child support is still an obligation that must be met. While the man isn’t currently making his required payments, one report has stated that he could be facing jail time if he isn’t able to make his monthly payments. Non-payment of child support is a hot topic right now as government officials begin to crack down on parents who do not pay. A person can face many consequences if they are unable to fulfill their obligations.

Any New Jersey parent faced with a child support situation could benefit from knowing the applicable laws. Whether a person is going through a divorce or not receiving ordered payments, taking a proactive approach can be a good way to ensure a positive outcome. Similarly, those noncustodial parents who can no longer keep up with support payments may wish to petition the court for a change in their required monthly amounts.

Source: New York Daily News, “VIDEO: Tennessee man who fathered 22 children by 14 women sued for child support; ‘I was young an ambitious and I loved women’,” Philip Caulfield, June 6, 2013

Rethinking the Positive Aspects of a New Jersey Divorce

If one based all their knowledge of divorce on reality television and other forms of popular media, we would envision each split as a bitter, contentious and dramatic experience that drags on forever and leaves on a broken shell of a person. Then again, we might also believe that finding one’s perfect spouse is as easy as becoming a contestant on a speed dating game show. In reality, however, each New Jersey divorce is unique, as is the marriage that preceded it. Not all endings are sad ones, and there is much life to be lived once the ink has dried on one’s divorce decree.

Spouses who are considering divorce or who have recently emerged from the process should make every effort to reframe the manner in which they view the end of their marriage. In many cases, moving forward as a single person provides one with the time and energy to pursue old ambitions or new interests. It can take some time to adjust to a life lived on one’s own terms, but the rewards can be substantial.

Even in cases in which the divorce was difficult, the process still can be viewed in a positive light. There is truth in the old adage that whatever doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. In many ways, a contentious divorce shows one just how strong they really are, and makes future adversities seem far easier to manage.

Perhaps it is time to revise the way that we look at divorce, and begin to approach the process as a sort of rebirthing of the self. Very few people In New Jersey who have gone through a divorce would choose to go back and remain in their marriage, although some might pay more attention to the details of their split. Understanding that this is a time of transition, and not a permanent state of emotional upheaval could help spouses move through the steps more easily. Putting down the remote couldn’t hurt, either.

Source: Huffington Post, “5 Reasons Your Divorce Is a Blessing in Disguise,” Honoree Corder, May 20, 2013

Tips for Fathers who Want Equal or Shared Child Custody

Fathers in New Jersey and across the nation are playing a more active role in the lives of their children than any previous generation. When a marriage ends in divorce, many of these hands-on fathers are not willing to stand by and watch their parenting role be reduced to an every-other-weekend visit. Parenting is a full-time enterprise, and when one parent goes from daily involvement to becoming little more than an occasional visitor, the change takes a toll on everyone involved. Fathers who wish to remain central in the lives of their children should make every effort to secure a child custody agreement that gives them the ability to do so.

Perhaps the most useful tool for accomplishing this goal is to map out one’s schedule. This can be done by means of a sophisticated computer program, or with a simple printed calendar. If the other parent is unwilling to grant more parenting time, begin by simply graphing out what an every-other-weekend schedule looks like. In many cases, parents may not realize that this structure leaves kids without the presence of their father for a period of twelve days, a pattern that will repeat every couple of weeks. It is hard to argue that such a schedule would be hard on kids who are used to seeing their dad every day.

Another important part of striving for an equal custody agreement involves trying to remain civil with the other parent. Shared or equal child custody requires a great deal of cooperation between parents, and beginning that process on the heels of a bitter custody battle is not the best way to transition from one household into two. Make every effort to cooperate and collaborate with your former partner when it comes to matters concerning the kids. Doing so can pave the way for a positive co-parenting relationship in the years to come.

When working through child custody negotiations, the most important thing to keep in mind is what outcome is best for the kids at the center of the matter. Child custody can be a highly contentious form of family law, which is understandable given the fact that parents love their kids deeply. Working through the various parenting arrangement options available to New Jersey parents can help them come to an agreement that suits the needs of all involved, and lays the foundation for future parenting success.

Source: Huffington Post, “Custody Battles: The Top Five Things Dads Should Know Before Setting Foot in Court,” Morghan Leia Richardson, May 23, 2013

Terrence Howard High Asset Divorce Settled

A high asset divorce can be timely and difficult. The process may take longer than desired due to all the factors that have to be considered and reviewed. Whether the high asset divorce takes place in New Jersey or in other areas of the country, it is a time consuming process in which one needs to gather their patience and prepare to confront the details necessary to achieve a comprehensive and fair settlement.

Actor Terrence Howard found himself in the midst of a high asset divorce. His ex-wife filed, alleging she was threatened and abused early on in their marriage. The actor himself made allegations that his ex was blackmailing him in exchange for monetary gain. Prior to the divorce, Howard was bound by a protective order to stay away from his ex-wife.

After two years in proceedings, the proceedings are now been finalized and settled, with Howard receiving the majority of the couple’s assets. Howard was granted a bulk of the marital property and accounts. His ex-wife was allowed to keep her vehicles but was ordered to return a Range Rover to her ex-husband. With the divorce being finalized, hopefully both parties can start the process of moving on to new lives.

High asset divorce can be a stressful time, but preparation usually pays off. If an amicable agreement cannot be reached, a New Jersey court may intervene to decide issues that the parties cannot agree upon. Alternative dispute resolution alternatives such as mediation or a collaborative approach are also worth considering, and the best place to start is to gain an understanding of the applicable laws and procedures to choose an approach that fits the actual circumstances.

Source: US Weekly, “Terrence Howard Finalizes Divorce From Michelle Ghent After Two Years,” Allison Takeda, May 10, 2013

New Jersey Lottery Winner Pays Past due Child Support

A New Jersey man got the surprise of a lifetime recently when he won the Powerball. He chose to walk away with the lump-sum payment, claiming $152 million. Although the man seemed to be on a lucky streak, it was later determined that he owed close to $30,000 in past due child support for three of his five children.

The man was in court today. Since his big win, the New Jersey resident has settled his child support debts. The three children that the child support was due for will reportedly begin living with him.

The man’s current child support obligations total $141 a week. However, his payments could be modified after his big win.

We have discussed the importance of child support on this blog before. Child support is frequently awarded in divorce cases. It is important that the court ordered payments are made in order for children to be given the best chance at future success.

It is also important that child support payments are calculated fairly. However, modifications can be made in the future when there are significant changes in income, which appears to be the case for the recent Powerball winner.

Family law matters can be difficult to deal with, especially if they center on children. Parents only want the best for their children. However, settling child custody and child support matters can be challenging.

Consultation with an experienced family law attorney is often wise when family law matters do arise. It may prove to be highly beneficial for New Jersey residents and others living elsewhere.

Source: ABC News, “Powerball Winner Resolves $30k Child Support Debt,” Associated Press, April 1, 2013